To deal with the persons of a good way Allah ccsays to us several times in the Koran to observe the good customs in our relations with others. Don't enganate others brothers/sisters for to have some benefit. It is haram. Remember: Your father , mother, son, daughter , uncle, wife, husband, sister, brother, grandmother, grandfather, cousin.. EVERYTBODY ARE YOUR SISTER /BROTHER. WE ARE UMMAH. WE ARE ALL SISTERS AND BROTHERS, MUSLIMS, ELHAMDULILLAH.
What separate or do the difference is : the badness or goodnees in the heart, soul.
To enganate is Sheitan ( May Allah cc to refuge us from it) acts.
So, be direct. show the right way. Talk clear. Teach clear.
Don't pre-judge . Ask and help.
Help with what sister/brother need.. not with you wish.
Remember always "From Allah(c) we came , to Allah cc we will return, inshAllah.
And don't forget: we don't know when will be our last act , here , in this world. but, we know
that our Owner Allah cc will to ask about what we did/made, here, in our life, all acts done.
He says: " There should be maintained the pardon (Oh Muhammad), and they recommend the kindness and the back to that which they are ignorant ".... [Surah Al-raf `A: 199]
Allah cc says: " Hardly eo they hardly can be the same. Repel (evil) with which it is better. Then he, between which, and you had not been a hatred will be how if she was his friendly darling " [Surah Fussilat: 34].
The Prophet (peace is with him) is the perfect example of which it means to have good customs. Allah cc
says, describing it: " In fact you are of a great moral character. " [Surah Al-Qalam: 4]
The Prophet (peace is with him) emphasized which good manners are of abridgement importance for the Islam, when he said: ". I was not sent snag in order that [Musnad Ahmad (8952)] perfected the good manners " In fact, he tells us that good manners are leaves from the faith.
He said: ". The believers with the faith more complete are that what have the best manners " [Sunan al-Tirmidhi (1162) and Sunan Abi Daud (4682)]
Between the good manners that we should have cultivated is of being sensible in our relations with others and not to react quickly when they do what displeases us.
The Prophet (peace should be with him) said Ashajj `Abd Qays: " You have inside you two qualities which Allah cc loves: discernment and patience. " [Sahih Muslim (17)]