Endurance
is of two kinds: when you endure unpleasant things coming to you, and when you bear refusal of things pleasing you.
Failures are often result of timidity and fears ; disappointments are results of uncalled for modesty. Hours of leisure pass away like summer cloud; therefore, do not waste opportunity of doing good.
Happy is the man who always kept the life after death in his view, who remembered the day of Reckoning through all his deeds, who led a contended life (helping), and who was happy with the lot that Allahcc hath Wills for him.
If you help a deserving person without his request then it is generosity, and if you help him after his request.... then mostly it is due to shyness to refuse
or
fear of reproach... or ignorance
hz Ali (ra)