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Gheebah (Gossip, Backbiting)

We start to set our moral  when we care our live and of those are from Allah CC to us care, but speak of on to the others is big sin and/or haram. Allah CC gave command to us for care our our tongue and mouth, thoughts , then out soul, and stay in duas, prayers is better than speak about live of the others. If one persons want that they live be showed , then they say about their self. But if she/he speak to us are not for us gossip, counting out, spreading corruption on earth, THAT'S SCANDAL. With this act , we can make the others be in hard situation, then in Devil hand.   Islam teaches that vain speech and talking about others are serious sins. Muslims should be careful of what they say and avoid idle talk. One of the hallmarks of righteous behavior is good speech. A person who stays mindful of Allah (God) will want to refrain from sins of the tongue such as backbiting, slander, gossip, lying, swearing, cursing and vain talk. The Qur'an and Hadith (the narrated traditions of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him*) warn against these sins of the tongue. Guarding one's speech is so important that Muslims will be held accountable for everything they say: “Not a word does he (or she) utter but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it)” (Qur'an 50:18). Lying in Islam Lying is a sin in Islam, and considered an evil act which can lead to the hellfire. Exaggerating, deception and fabricating co-called "white lies" are also sinful, even if used purely in jest or to pacify a child. Under special circumstances, Islam gives exception to telling lies. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Lies are not appropriate except in three cases: when a man speaks to his wife to please her, telling lies at times of war, and lying in order to bring about reconciliation between people.” (Reported Hasan by Shaykh al-Albaani) Gossip, Backbiting and Slander in Islam Gossip involves the act of talking about others, and often involves backbiting or slander. Both are grave sins in Islam. A well-known hadith distinguishes backbiting from slander in the following way: The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, "Allah and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger of Allah said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim) Sometimes, we go so far as to think that if what we are doing is better than what they are doing, its  acceptable.  While this may be true in a society of honorable people, in this society where the woman who wears a one-piece bathing suit  instead of a bikini is considered modest, we can not use them to set  our compasses. We have to set our standards much higher.  They have to correspond  with the teachings and understandings of  Islam.  Also, we have to  recognize that when it comes to morality and values, Islam is the standard.  Want to know a prime example?  Ever heard of the Golden  Rule? It says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Sound familiar?  It should, the Prophet stated the same basic thing.  He said, Narrated Anas:   The Prophet said, "None of you will have faith till  he wishes for his (Muslim) brother what he likes for himself." Sahih  Bukhari: Volume 1, Book 2, Number 12. What about the statement, " If you can't say something good, say  nothing at all."  Here it is in our beloved Prophet's words. Narrated Abu Huraira:  Allah's Apostle said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should talk what is good or keep quiet, and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (or insult) his neighbor..."  Sahih Bukhari: Volume 8, Book 76, Number 482. All this goes to preface the idea that we have to care about each other in a way that is in line with Islam, not the lessor standards of the non-believers. Let them follow us.  When we think of  gheebah (gossip, backbiting), most of us think that this is the speech as defined by the non-believers - saying something negative about someone - whether truthful or not.  But Islam has given it a stronger definition: Narrated AbuHurayrah:   Allah's Apostle (peace_be_upon_him) said: Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Apostle (peace_be_upon_him) know best. Thereupon, he (the Prophet) said.  "Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner that he does not like." It was said to him,  "What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said, "If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbiten him, and if that is not in him it is a slander. Sahih Muslim: Book 31, Number 6265, Abu Dawud, Ahmad, Tirmidhi, others... and Al-Muttalib ibin Abdullah said, "The Messenger of Allah said, 'Gheebah (gossip, backbiting) means that a man mentions about a person something which is true, behind his back."(Al_Suyuti, Zawa'id Al Jami from the report of al Khara'iti in Masawi Al Akhlaq.  Malik reported something similar  with a Mursal Isnad as mentioned in Al-Sahihah, No. 1992) Just imagine the high standards that Islam has set, that this horrible sin is not even confined just to the oral or written statement.    Hasan Ibin Al Makhaariq reported that "Once a woman visited Aisha and  when the woman got up to leave, Aisha made a sign with her hand indicating to the Prophet that the woman was short.  The Prophet immediately chastised her, saying, "You have backbitten!"  (Ibin Jareer tafseer Al Quraan al AdHeem, vol. 4, p. 328) and Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:   I said to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him): It is enough for you in Safiyyah that she is such and such (the other version than Musaddad's has:) meaning that she was short-statured. He replied; You have said a word which would change the sea if it were mixed in it... Sunan Abu Dawud: Book 41, Number 4857: Here we can see that Gheebah (gossiping, backbiting) is also what we do that a person may dislike if done  in reference to them. This is a serious sin.   I know it is easy to underestimate its worth, but Allah has warned us about it in His Glorious Book, O you who believe! Avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is a sin, and do not spy nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? But you abhor it; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, surely Allah is Oft-returning (to mercy), Merciful.  49:12   Allah described backbiting as an act of eating our brothers or sisters flesh.  But don't think of this as only metaphorical.  Our beloved prophet proved this to us in one of his great miracles. Ubaid, the freed slave of the Prophet, reported that someone came to the Prophet and showed the Prophet two women who were fasting and said that they were dying of thirst.  The Prophet turned away silently refusing to give permission for them to break their fast.  So, the man begged him again, mentioning that the women were on the verge of death.  The Prophet then said, bring them to me and bring along a bowl.  When they turned to him, he turned to one and told her to vomit in the bowl. She complied, spitting up a mixture of vomit, blood, pus and pieces of flesh which half filled the bowl.  He then turned to the other and had her do the same.  After the bowl was filled, he said, "Verily these two have fasted from what Allah has made halal for them and broken their fast from what Allah has made haram.  They spent their fast eatting the flesh of others." Ahmad These women gave up food and drink - halal substances, and instead partook of the flesh of their brothers and sisters.  So distasteful was this fare that it made them sick to the point of near death.  Subhanallah!   Further,  our scholars have warned us and have warned us to repent from it:  Al Qurtubi said, "The scholars agree that it is a major sin, and that the committing of this sin necessitates repentance (tawbah) to Allah" (Al-Qurtubi, Tafsir of Surat Al Hujirat). The Prophet has warned us of great punishments which may befall us as a result of committing this sin: Narrated AbuBarzah al-Aslami: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: O community of people, who believed by their tongue, and belief did not enter their hearts, do not back-bite Muslims, and do not search for their faults, for if anyone searches for their faults, Allah will search for his fault, and if Allah searches for the fault of anyone, He disgraces him in the open for everyone to see, even if he hid it in the innermost part of his house. Sunan Abu Dawud: Book 41, Number 4862, Sahih Sunan Al Tirmidhi (1655), Ibin Hiban, Hasan by Al Albani, Ghaybah al-Muram, 420 See, we talk about others, exposing them and Allah gives us a taste of our own medicine - exposing us.  Which of us has no secret which would harm us if exposed?  Who among us can afford to risk this punishment?  Allah Protect us form his Wrath. We have to be very careful. Remember, on the day of Judgement, Allah may forgive us the sins we committed against Him, but He will not take away our rights as individuals.  A person will have the right to take our good deeds or even give us their bad deeds because of crimes we have committed against them.  One of these crimes is gheebah, where we sacrifice the honor of our brothers and sisters. Narrated AbuHurayrah:   Allah's Apostle (peace_be_upon_him) said: Do you know who is poor? They (the Companions of the Prophet)  said: A poor man amongst us is one who has neither dirham with him nor wealth.   He (the Prophet) said: The poor of my Ummah would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection with  prayers and fasts and Zakat but (he would find himself bankrupt on that day as he would have exhausted his funds of virtues) since he hurled abuses upon others, brought calumny against others and unlawfully consumed the wealth of others and shed the blood of others and beat others, and his virtues would be credited to the account of  one (who suffered at his hand). And if his good deeds fall short to clear the account, then his sins would be  entered in (his account) and he would be thrown in the Hell-Fire. Sahih Muslim: Book 31, Number 6251 Let's reflect on this.  Here we are.  We thought we were doing good.  We prayed.  We fasted.  We worked hard on doing good deeds.  Yet, there we will be on the day of Judgement.  We will have survived all of the horrible trials, the judgement, the bridge and the huge thorns which snatch us according to our deeds and  throws  us into Hell. (Sahih Bukhari: Volume 8, Book 76, Number 577).  We will have been through all this, only to lose all our good deeds because we could not or would not control our tongue. On this day, we will stand there and be asked by those whom we harmed for their rights.  A person whom we have backbitten may take that one crucial deed that means Heaven or Hell.  How many deeds can you afford to GIVE away?  Personally, I don't feel that I can spare one.  Subhanallah!  On this day, the mother will drop her load.  Your mom will not know you or care about you! Your mother! The Prophets will be saying, "I am not fit for that"  The Prophets, what chance do you or I have???  We must not give ourselves so much credit that we actually have the gall to believe that we can afford to give away even one deed.  Allah protect us all. This is a major sin that we have to guard against.  We can not allow ourselves to fall into it.  Allah warns us that nothing will be hidden on that day.  We will have even our limbs speaking against us or for us: Allah says, On the day when their tongues and their hands and their feet shall bear witness against them as to what they did. 24:24 And Our Prophet warns us to be careful of our tongues, what we say.  He also encouraged us with the rewards we get for doing so. Narrated Sahl bin Sa'd:   Allah's Apostle said, "Whoever can guarantee (the chastity of) what is between his two jaw-bones and what is between his two legs (i.e. his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him." Sahih Bukhari: Volume 8, Book 76, Number 481: and Narrated AbuHurayrah: Allah's Apostle (peace_be_upon_him) said: The servant (whose fault) Allah conceals in this world, Allah would also conceal (his faults on the Day of Resurrection. Muslim: Book 31, Number 6266 and Narrated Uqbah ibn Amir:: Whoever covers the faults of  believer is like one who has brought to life a female child buried alive. Sunan Abu Dawud: Book 41, Number 4873 Mashallah.  The rewards are so great.  We should be so careful in this matter to avoid the punishment and to receive the great blessings.   There are a few situations where it is allowed for us to talk about something, but these are limited.  Here are a few allowed situations: Marital advice or protection from possible harm:  Fatimah bint Qays went to the Prophet seeking marital advice when both Muawiyah Ibin Abu Sufyan and Abu Jahm had proposed to her.  The Prophet told her, "Muawiyah  is stingy  and tight fisted) and Abu Jahm beats his women." So marry Usamah instead. (Muslim, Abu Dawud, At Tirmidhi, An Nisai, and Ibin Majah Complaint: Narrated 'Aisha:   Hind, the mother of Mu'awiya said to Allah's Apostle, "Abu Sufyan (her husband) is a miser. Am I allowed to take from his money secretly?" The Prophet said to her, "You and your sons may take what is sufficient  reasonably and fairly."Sahih Bukhari: Volume 3, Book 34, Number 413:   Seeking advice from someone who has the power to help:  Abu Hurayrah narrated that a man  said, ""O Messenger of Allah! I have a neighbor who is harassing me."  He said, "Go and put your belongings on the street." So, the man went and put his belongings on the street.  People gathered and asked, "What's wrong with you?" He said, "I have a neighbor who is harassing me;  I told the Prophet about it and he told me to go and put my belongings in the street."  The people began to say, "O Allah Curse him! (about the neighbor).  the neighbor heard about this so he came to the man and told him, "Go back into your house, by Allah I will not disturb you again."  Bukhari: Adab Al Mufrad 124 (Al Mundhiri classified its isnad as Hasan in Targhib wal Tarhib) Now, once we have seen this, we have to reflect upon it.  What if we have committed gheebah, what should we do?  Well,  Al Nawawi said, "The Ulama  have said that  if you have committed Gheebah, then ask forgiveness for it.  Commenting on this, Shiekh Al Albaani said, "This is if you do not fear any worse evil to result from askinf him for forgiveness;  otherwise, it is enough to pray for him.' (Gossip and its adverse effects on the Muslim Community, Husayn Al Awayishah, 76). So, how do we repent from this awful deed?  We have to first ask Allah to forgive us and make a decision to not repeat it.  Then, we go to the person, if possible, and ask them to forgive us. Remember, Allah will forgive us his right, if we ask sincerely, but He will not remove a right from a believer.  So we must ask the believer for his forgiveness as well. One last note: What shall we do if we are in a situation where others are backbiting?  We have to first  remember Allah, and have them do so as well by advising them nicely.  If this does not work, we must leave, because sitting there and listening is as bad as doing the deed.  For the scholars agree that a person who is in attendance when a sin is being committed is as guilty as the ones who are committing the sin.  Your presence is a kind of approval of the deed.  If your friends are angry with you for not participating in their sins, they are not really friends.  Why would they want to harm you? Your deen? or hurt your chances to get to Paradise?  Also, remember in doing so, you are protecting the honor of your brother or sister, and look to the reward of doing so: The Prophet said, "On the Day of Resurrection, Allah will deflect fire from the face of one who defends his Muslim brother's honor in the latter's absence." At Tirmidhi O Allah! Guard our tongues.  O Allah! Guard our actions.  O Allah! Forgive us our sins against You and ease the hearts of those we have harmed so that they too will forgive us. Ameen

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THE DISEASE OF PRIDE
The disease of pride and arrogance deletes all traces of goodness and piety. This is the worst vice in causing havoc to Deen and a regrettable disease to have for the followers of this perfect and exalted religion. It launches a direct attack on beliefs and principles. If ignored and overlooked for sometime it becomes fatal and incurable, and gives rise to other spiritual maladies and vices, which are no less than four in number, as, mentioned below:
1.  Being deprived of truth and truthfulness. The heart becomes blind to the verse dealing with knowledge about Allah. It is a very grievous vice in which the mind of a man becomes dull and impervious to the understanding of Deen. Allah has said in the Holy Quran:
“I shall turn away from My revelations those who show pride in the world wrongfully.” (7.146)
Allah has said in another place in the Quran:
“And in this way Allah does put a seal on every arrogant disdainful heart.” (40.35)
2.  The wrath and punishment of Allah fall on the jealous person. Allah has said:
“Certainly He does not love the proud ones.” (16:23)
It is narrated that Hazrat Moosa asked exalted Allah: “Oh my Lord! Who is the most deserving of your wrath and displeasure?” Allah Ta’aala told him:
“ It is he whose heart is filled with pride and his tongue is filthy (i.e. Abusive), his eyes are devoid of shame, his hands are miserly and he is of bad conduct and character.
3.  Allah will put the proud to disgrace and ill-repute (dishonour) in the Hereafter.
Hazrat Hatim Asam (rahmatullahi alaihi) has said: “Do not die in a state of pride, greed and arrogance.”
Allah does not cause the proud fellow to meet his death unless he is disgraced and dishonoured by his own family, relatives and servants.
Similarly the greedy does not meet his death unless he becomes destitute for a morsel of food and a drop of water.
In the same way the arrogant person does not meet his own death unless being polluted with his own excrement and urine.
4. The proud renders himself liable to Hell in the Hereafter. It occurs in a Hadith Qudsi:
“Pride is My cloak and grandeur is my trousers. If anyone disputes with Me in any one of these (two) I shall admit him into the Hell-fire.”
In the other words, pride and grandeur are two exclusive attributes of Allah, which none is allowed to apply and ascribe towards himself.
It is imperative to refrain from such a dangerous and deadly calamity which leads to loss of knowledge of Allah, inability to understand the commands of Allah, His displeasure, disgrace in this world and the Hereafter and painful torment therein. No wise person can be neglectful in the matter of such a harmful and destructive calamity.
 We should, therefore, try to save ourselves from this and seek refuge from Allah.
This is a brief account of the four calamities, mentioned in the beginning. Each of these four adversities are very harmful and dangerous in the sight of those wise and knowledgeable persons who are aware of the importance of the reforming of ones heart.
Those are the four disease and vices that stem from having pride. How many of us are there that can honestly say, without deceiving ourselves that we are free of this hated ailment?  Not many, is the answer. It is imperative that we take heed from this article and we bear in mind the punishment promised by Allah Ta’ala to those with pride in their hearts.
Pride as a sin is incorrectly considered to be insignificant and minute in comparison to other major sins, by a vast majority of the people. It may be that compared to the major sins like murder and associating partner with Allah, it is slightly inferior. But that is only because of the magnitude of those particular sins that pride is considered a lesser sin.
In a Hadith of the Holy Prophet it is narrated that,
“Whosoever has in his heart, even a atom of pride he will not enter paradise.”
In observing the above Hadith, it is of utmost importance that we get rid of this spiritual malady, if we hold any illusion or hope of entering paradise.
Remember that we do claim to be the followers and believes of Islam and we claim to be Muslims, so how then can we still have pride in ourselves? For the very meaning of Islam is to submit totally and conditionally to the worship of the Supreme Being, Allah Ta’ala and as Muslims it is incumbent upon us to get rid of every drop of pride, superiority and haughtiness within us, as we are small and inferior in comparison to the Supreme Being, if such comparison can be made. So let's try and act upon the very essence of our religion and our adjective as Muslims and submit and surrender ourselves to the worship and pleasure of Allah Ta’ala.